Do you find yourself triggered by certain people, or find it difficult to accept and fully love yourself? Then, forgiveness is the answer! Use this forgiveness letter template to set yourself free from past hurt.
Ready to free yourself from the resentment that ties you to the past? Forgiveness allows you to focus on the present and future. It releases the chains that mentally and emotionally bind you.
Forgiveness: An Initiation into Deep Healing
Every time we choose to forgive, we enter into a deep initiation of healing. Whether you’ve been doing the inner work for a long time, or you’re just starting out, the effects will be profound.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you condone the hurtful behavior of others, it means you reclaim your power by creating the emotional and energetic distance your spirit needs to heal. And if you need to forgive yourself, this practice will help you reconnect with self-compassion, and restore your spirit into wholeness.
In either scenario, you complete the cycles of abuse and reclaim our personal authority and power! I’m so stoked for you…
My personal story of forgiveness
When I discovered this practice in 2016, during a heart wrenching breakup, it brought me immense inner and outer peace. In fact, I felt so light and free, I may as well have been dancing on a cloud.
It wasn’t the ex-partner that I had to forgive, it was myself and it was the caretakers in my past that had let me down. It was all interconnected and in my pursuit to heal my heart, it lead me into the depths of my inner most pain.
Some of that pain involved me forgiving my father, who I felt let me down in many ways. His emotional unavailability deprived me so deeply that I kept attracting unhealthy, unfulfilling relationships with men who wouldn’t fully commit.
I knew that if I wanted to love myself, love someone else, and be loved in return, I had to heal my heart from all past heartbreak. If you feel called to do the same, keep reading.
Allowing forgiveness towards myself and important people in my life, brought huge spiritual shifts and upgrades into my life.
Forgiveness for Empaths and Sensitive Souls
For sensitive souls and empaths, it’s especially important to clear karmic debts with others who don’t reflect back to us upmost respect. Sensitive souls and the like are prone to suffer long-term effects if the wounds of un-forgiveness are not addressed.
If you relate to these labels, the challenge arises when you harbor pain and resentment towards people within your intimate circles. This could include close friends, your romantic partners, parents, children, or intimately bonded colleagues.
Relational Wounds and The Importance of Forgiveness
Relational wounds can have the strongest emotional effects and if unresolved, we can incur karmic debris that remains in our energetic fields in this lifetime and beyond.
Karmic debris keeps us shackled to painful and confusing cycles of deprivation, self-sabotage, distorted choices, and overwhelmingly distressing emotions.
Luckily, there is a solution to clearing your karmic debt and re-writing your story around what you allow or don’t allow in relationships. Thank goodness!
Forgiveness Letters for Healing
Forgiveness is a fully selfish act, in the best sense! It frees us from the low vibration thought forms that create emotional distress, mental chaos, and physical ailments.
You don’t need to share your forgiveness rituals with the person who caused you pain. It’s a fully private healing initiation. Below you will find a forgiveness letter template that will allow you to process bitterness, sadness, and resentment out of your body.
When we do not process low vibration emotions, we store them in different parts of our physical bodies, which cause mental, emotional, and physical illness of all sorts.
Not to mention, it just feels real stinkin’ depressing? I know you can relate!
Psychosomatic Effects & Benefits of Forgiveness
During my advanced studies in counseling school, we learned about the psychosomatic impacts that occur when pain lingers in our nervous systems for too long. Pyscho, (referring to the mental) and Soma, (referring to the body) have an intimate dance with each other. There is no parsing them apart – they are essentially one moving function.
That’s not common knowledge in Western culture but I’m glad to say, people are becoming wise to this!
We have to address both the mental and emotional aspects of forgiveness, in order to free our nervous system from operating on destructive auto-pilot.
Disease often stems from dis-ease in our life circumstances, in our relationships, and most importantly, in our relationship with ourselves.
When we’re “at-ease”, life changes, inner and outer shifts occur. We finally can see the light of truth and walk in freedom.
Benefits of Forgiving Others & Yourself
When you can forgive and clear karmic debts, you will experience improvements in all important areas of your life. Wealth tends to flourish and drawing forth enriching relationships with individuals who genuinely celebrate and support you become normal. Health conditions often find healing or significant relief, and a luminous radiance effortlessly emanates from both the skin and aura.
Hey, I’m all for inner peace, but increased beauty and an outward glow..sign me up!
The Forgiveness Letter Template
Convinced yet? Use this template to craft a Forgiveness Letter to someone (remember, this could even be towards yourself!) that may have caused you pain. Fill in the blanks and write as much or as little as you’d like. I encourage you to really express whatever comes up for you, without censoring or shortening your responses.
You don’t need to get it right. You just need to begin. And I loooove that you are!
Let’s Begin….
Easy Copy and Paste Forgiveness Letter Template
Dear [whoever negatively impacted you],
Start by writing this statement: I am writing to you with the intention of expressing my thoughts and feelings, not with the expectation of a response or reconciliation. This letter is part of my own healing and forgiveness journey, I’m not going to send it to you.
[Optional: Begin with a brief acknowledgment of any positive memories or aspects of your relationship.]
In reference to ____________________________________ [describe the painful situation(s) or time], where ___________________________________ [provide details such as what happened, who was involved, when/where it occurred, and any significant words exchanged], I have been harboring unpleasant emotions.
I have been harboring emotions of ____________________________________ [label the specific feelings]. These feelings have persisted within me since ______________________________________________________[mention the duration or event].
Maintaining these emotions has come at a cost, impacting me by _____________________________________________________[describe the consequences or effects]. These feelings have affected me in ways such as ____________________________________________________[elaborate on the impact].
The payoff for holding onto these emotions has been ___________________________________________ [state the perceived benefit or reason]. However, I recognize that releasing these feelings could make a significant difference in my life by __________________________________________________[mention the positive change].
Acknowledging the fears associated with letting go of these emotions, I am now prepared and willing to release them. I desire to replace these feelings with emotions of __________________________________________________ [express the desired new feelings].
I affirm my commitment to letting go and would like to reinforce positive self-talk by telling myself ______________________________________________[state affirmations or positive statements].
Welcoming these new emotions, I intend to demonstrate corresponding behaviors, including ____________________________________________ [mention desired behaviors], and express myself through words such as ____________________________________ [state the desired words].
Reflecting on a previous instance when I experienced similar feelings, it brings to mind the time when ________________________________________________ [describe the past situation].
End by writing: I appreciate your supportive presence, allowing me the space to release and let go. I am taking this step towards forgiveness not for your benefit, but for my own emotional well-being. It is an acknowledgment of the power I have over my own life and the strength to break free from the emotional chains that previously bound me.
Sincerely,
[Your Name]
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Final Wrap-up
Congratulations – I’m celebrating this massive achievement with you!!! A real and tangible achievement and step towards peace and spiritual transformation!
Notice in the next few days and coming weeks, just how much more calm and poised power you have over your emotions and subsequent reactions when it comes to this particular person or past situation.
Rest into the changes and if needed, create sacred boundaries around what treatment you will or will not allow. This is a great time to implement more self-loving practices, such as ideas you can find in my free self-care bucket list PDF.
Until we meet again, keep shining, you radiant beauty! – XO, Laura
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