Since childhood, I’ve loved dancing. But after many failed attempts of making it on dance teams and a few crushing blows to my ego from professional dancers…I simply gave up on believing that dance was for me.
Intuitive Dance
My Journey Back to Dance
Sure, I would dance in “the club” with friends throughout my 20’s and from time to time I’d find myself dancing to songs in my room. But generally, dance didn’t seem productive or like a priority in my efforts to get ahead and make it in life.
College courses, then job hunting, then adjusting to a new area, everything else felt so pressing! When and where did dance fit into this equation. It didn’t.
This isn’t a story of how I gave up on dance though, it’s a story of redemption and how dance found me again in places I never expected.
Not A Traditional Dancer
Firstly, you need to know, I love dance, I’ve got rhythm, AND I’m also terribly uncoordinated. This is an odd mix but those who know…well they know. This combination may be how you feel? To love dance but yet not fit into the tradition styles or memorized steps. Such an unfortunate place to be and it use to drive my hypermasculine side crazy. Every attempt to join a team left me frustrated that steps came easy for others but not for me, leaving my younger self on the sidelines.
First Breakthroughs…and what followed
Now, here is where intuitive dance comes in. Several times in my journey from teens to 30’s, intuitive dance crossed my path. The first time it happened was at the tail-end of a 7 year relationship I was in. I knew the relationship was not built to last but my resistance to leave was so incredibly strong. Fear gripped me, and I kept brushing off this nagging urge to leave. He was “great” but not great for me. One night when he went out with his friends, I spontaneously found myself in his living room dancing my heart out. It wasn’t planned, it wasn’t a performance, it was my body stretching and waking up in ways that I had not anticipated. Energy was moving, it took my body over with both ecstatic and liberating movements. No one was watching, just my body opening up like a rosebud, violently and with speed.
Within a week, we were separated and this time for good. Something came alive in me, my DNA had been activated and I’ll never forget recognizing how powerful the body is in changing my life. The body can do what the mind simply can’t. The body knows wisdom we can’t grasp with force or intellect alone. That experience stayed with me but even then, dance faded once again from the forefront.
Dance Without the Masculine Structure
Still under this assumption that dance was a leisure activity (not aggressive enough to be considered a workout) and not productive enough to get me ahead in life…I stored it away in the recess of my mind. I remember attending kickboxing classes for several years and telling the other women there that I’d really like to get back into dance instead. There was a part of me that knew it held the feminine transformation that I so desperately craved. But the only options I found were dance studios that required formal training and yet again heavily coordinated dance styles. I now know why this turned me off, it’s because this style didn’t feel intuitive. It still felt masculine with set rules and scrutiny, and that wholeheartedly repelled me.
Trusting Divine Guidance and Creating the Inner Wish
So, I vowed to let dance find me. As many things have along my path, the right person, place, or thing often revealed itself TO ME. Not the other way around. I made the wish in my heart to connect with dance when the time was right in the way that would feel the best for me. And I waited.
Since then, I can happily say that intuitive dance (also known as Ecstatic Dance) made itself known to me. This is a form of dance where your body determines the steps and movements. The music is a catalyst to what the body wants to express – no rules, no coordination, no boundaries.
Different Types of Intuitive Dance (and my preferences!)
Some groups host collective estatic dance circles, which I have attended but honestly my journey has mainly been solo. Candidly, I find some of the ecstatic dance groups to be a little too “hippy” for me, and I say that with no judgement, I’ve been through a hippy phase myself. It’s just that it can attract a lot of ungrounded spiritual seekers (which I have also been!) and at this stage of my life dance is not political or religious in any sense to me. Dance is about the body and how much power it holds. It’s not a performance or a way to reach something outside myself. Dance is about recognizing my own energy in any given moment, honoring it, and bringing both awareness and attention to it.
I dance in an online group now, with other women who are showing up fully in their bodies with no agenda. This is great for me because it’s a community but also creates some separation in my own space. It creates unity and autonomy in perfect harmony. Since joining the group at the end of 2025, so much has shifted in my life. Without even trying, my relationships deepened, my business brought in more revenue, my menstrual periods became regular, my energy levels increased, my general disposition became even lighter and I find myself laughing in conversations way more than I use to.
Letting Dance Arrive and Expand You
On top of that, I actually attracted several other dance classes without trying such as MixxFit and a more club style version of Zumba. Those are definitely more coordinated but in a very unsupervised low-pressure sense. Which suits me perfectly.
Final Words of Advice
My point here, is that you don’t need to be coordinated to be a dancer. You don’t need to grow up with parents who had the money to send you to dance classes. It’s not too late, it’s not unproductive, it’s not just “exercise”. Dance is for you if you desire to expand your life in both life, love, or business. Because “nothing changes until the body changes”. When you shift your state, through movement, you turn on different parts of your brain and tap deeper into your ancient wisdom. That ancient wisdom is your intuition, and the more we can attune with the body the louder that inner knowing becomes.
Becoming A Certified Intuitive Dance Guide
I’m considering becoming a certified intuitive dance instructor because I’ve already started to incorporate these practices into my group sessions around themes of accessing greater visibility, attracting more money, and attuning to and surrendering more fully into your authentic self.
I’ve discovered that dance is hugely productive. It helps you move stuck emotion, shut off the overactive part of your mind, end overthinking, which sets you back on your path towards alignment, love, and success. You deserve JOY.
Next steps….
Turn on some instrumental music, and notice how your body wants to MOVE. Let it move, and be moved.
Much love!!!
Laura
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